One Grounded Angel

Note: this is an updated version of an article originally published in December 2015.

A theme that often comes up in my healing work is the impact of our relationship with our parents on the way we love, live and parent our own kids. For some people, this is deeply uncomfortable terrain, because many of us are raised to respect our parents to the point where recognising their flaws can feel like a betrayal of sorts. It’s important to understand that healing is not about heaping blame on our parents and directing anger at them for the rest of your life, it’s simply about understanding the ways that the healing they didn’t do in their own lives has consequently been passed on to you. We can recognise the way our parents have let us down and love or like them anyway (or not, depending on the circumstances). You’re entitled to be angry at a parent if they failed you in some way, but eventually you’ll probably want to move past that anger into a space where you can hold two different truths in the same hand: the truth that the way you were treated should never have happened, and the truth that you can live in relative peace in spite of it.

Today I’m going to see someone who pushes my buttons in the worst way. Mostly we get along great, but this person has a habit of sometimes saying things that make me ANGRY. I am looking forward to seeing him, but obviously the wariness was simmering away in my subconscious because almost as soon I woke up this morning I started imagining what he might say to me and how I might respond (calmly, succinctly and persuasively, of course). When I sat down to do my meditation this imagined conflict started to permeate my practice (somewhat counterproductive, no?). I realised it was time to remind my brain who’s in charge of this body (i.e. my heart).

According to the law of attraction, even arguments we have in our heads are going to have an impact on what we manifest into our lives. So basically, it’s not just spoken words that matter. Not only am I creating negativity for myself by ruminating on how this person might piss me off, I am damaging my relationship with him as well by bringing discomfort and an unhappy energy into our real-life interactions. Not ideal.

To counter this, I said a few affirmations around accepting people as they are, and asked the angels to help heal our relationship. After that, I resolved to simply let it go. Whatever happens, happens. But at least I’ll go into our catch-up with an open heart and a tranquil mind. And that’s worth A LOT.

I’m a spiritual healer who helps people get unstuck.